Over time, you will find that the argument will lessen if you stay persistent.
Though you will never be able to forget the pain of growing up gay and the brutality of those early years, eventually that pain will lessen, and you will, at last, begin to treat yourself as compassionately as you treat most everyone else.
The best speech was by the dean of the medical school who said things like, "You will heal the sick, you will lessen the pain of the weary, you will make life more comfortable for the restless".
This assures that you will lessen the amount of things you'll have to do when the time comes.
Be a bit ridiculous, but it will lessen the paranoia you may experience.
Snacking throughout the night, while sometimes deemed 'giving in to the drunchies', will lessen the hangover you feel the next day.
Helping them to talk about this conflict with you (and not becoming defensive when they vent their hostility at you) will lessen the pain it inflicts on both them and you.
Remove the diaper from the toilet bowl, and wring it out This portion of the process doesn't have to be perfect, but get as much of the wringing done as you can get, as this will lessen the weight when you go to wash them.
"Yes, you want to win, but you don't want to do anything that will lessen the chance of you winning at the Olympic Games".
Patterns may become clearer, and as your grieving begins to lessen, you will find it so much easier to "get" valuable life lessons from the whole experience if you've been writing your way through it.
