This revelation unfolded for me while I handled numerous international clients, like Dell Computer, Bayer Consumer Care and Volvo.
By contrast, leaders focuses on creating value, saying: "I'd like you to handle A while I deal with B". He or she generates value over and above that which the team creates, and is as much a value-creator as his or her followers are.
After awhile though, I was better able to deal with these things, and while it's still hard, I handle them a lot better than I did before.
But while I can handle all of that, what I can't handle is some brochure telling me that I am embarking on a rewarding journey.
For a while, it seemed likely: I handled some overflow editing and did photo research for the production department.
My mother and sister had flown in and waited outside the door while Dude and I handled the grimmest of business.
Then I had some family matters I needed to attend to, so I handled those while I was unemployed and took time off from my job search".
While I was handling the dark one, before I removed the strings for the repair, I had an impulse, an urge I didn't even try to resist.
And while I could probably handle the myriad physiological disorders associated with my condition -- bouts of pain and bleeding coming and going for decades, hair growth patterns that obviously differ from "normal" people's -- the social downsides associated with it are troubling.
