Thus, when you broach the subject of your wife's weight gain, it is possible that she does not simply hear "it seems like you are putting on weight," but also, "it seems that you have become lazy, slovenly, (and even) unworthy of my affection)." Such a message could make your wife feel that your love for her is conditional, making her question the very foundation of your marriage.
The common problem, underscores Levy, is "We fall in love with a company that is unworthy of our affection".
There is nothing more destructive to our lives than to believe our friends and family members who think differently than we do are qualitatively unworthy of our affection.
It communicates the message to others, " I reject and mistrust you, for you are certain to become unworthy of my affection and esteem".
That's between Helena (a wonderful Annie Parisse), our resourceful heroine, and Bertram (Andre Holland), the unworthy object of her affections, who has just wed her against his will.
Indeed, the moral torchlight is shone on the odious Mr Collins when he tells Mr Bennet to "throw off your unworthy child from your affection for ever, and leave her to repay the fruits of her own heinous offence".
Subservience is very different: here you must bow down to the powerful no matter how unworthy of respect or affection they might be.
For Mathilde, taking care of the inconveniences of daily life behind the scenes has mostly been a happy chore, and yet she still feels unworthy of her husband's affections.
It is not a reason to tell a person that they are unworthy of your love and affection.
And I want to make this clear, as it's what I view to be a gaping omission in our society's dealings with singledom: My singledom is in no way born of some belief that I am unworthy of a partner or affection or love.
One of her obsessions was the love triangle, but she didn't succumb to the dull (and rather Hollywood) storyline in which the competing parties, here usually women, become bitter rivals for the affection of an often unworthy man.
