Positive reasons are the things people love about their families, such as togetherness, grandparent-grandchild closeness, caring for elders -- the premodern family checklist, or, less pejoratively, the traditional family.
(He looked like her "notary", it was said).In this spirit, Germany eagerly adopts any diplomatic jargon that suggests togetherness, such as a "Weimar triangle" (of Poland, France and Germany) or a "Normandy format" (of Germany, Russia, Ukraine and France).
In "The Virgin Suicides," Sofia Coppola's recent magical adaptation of Jeffrey Eugenides's 1993 novel, the five Lisbon sisters share such an intense togetherness in their feverish, cloistered adolescence that they are like a single organism.
As owners of a single-family brownstone townhouse less than 100 feet from the park, my wife and I feel fortunate to live in an area where our children can get the experience of celebration (for example, we celebrate Juneteenth) and the togetherness such gatherings in the park engender among Harlemites and their families.
Surprisingly, despite (or perhaps because of) all the time they spend texting, gaming and on Snapchat or Tumblr, when asked which activities they most enjoyed, teenagers list those with an element of physical togetherness, such as gigs or trips to amusement parks.
It is absolutely not okay, though, to let such feelings and togetherness die down once the 11th has come to an end.
Sometimes standard designs miss out on our craving for togetherness, such as when massive apartment complexes stack one unit on top of another, with nowhere but elevators and hallways for people to meet.
Then bringing an acetate of it there and seeing it happen; such mind-blowing togetherness of spirit, so many treasured memories of magical moments in time, including those we shared together behind those turntables like when he's suddenly turn around and would tell to me to throw the next record on, only to reappear half an hour later.
The failure of such calls for togetherness to translate into development (Howard Smith 2008), disappointment in a politics of the belly (Bayart 1993; Lynch 2011), and the disintegration of government services in the wake of structural adjustment all leave today's volunteers less certain of their social moorings.
