But, he said, it is also true that "for the poor spouse, the process can be very unpleasant".
As a writer, I've mined much of my experience as a military spouse – a process that was cathartic and scary, embarrassing and helpful.
Even if you do everything right on your end, it might take a long time for your spouse to process everything and react accordingly.
Not only do most marriages end without a decent, respectful, honest and "strategic" conversation, but the transition from "we" to "me" is often unplanned, abrupt and initiated by one person, leaving no time for both spouses to process and regroup.
Usually, the couple then applies for a visa for that spouse in a process that can take 20 months or longer.
Your mediator is just one part of the entire team of professionals available to help you and your spouse through this process, and you should absolutely consult with professionals with expertise in particular areas, as needed.
He emphasised the role of significant others (such as spouses) in this process.
The desire for women undergoing compulsory screening (for Syphilis) to involve their spouses in the process either by prior information or providing written documentation was aimed to improve decision-making, minimize forms of prejudice, and enhance disclosure of results.
If emotions flare up during the divorce process, the spouse contributing money to cover household expenses may suddenly stop making payments, or an angry spouse could deny the other access to the children at a day and time previously agreed upon.
The presence of a foreign spouse introduces a reflexive process of negotiation of relationships and practices into everyday family life.
