You've had epiphanies, made discoveries, adjusted your self-image, reconciled your life with your faith, and come to terms with your own response to the understanding that you are gay.
The book chronicles how Frank and Mamah arrive at the point of no return, how they construe their rebelliousness as idealism, and how they reconcile self-interest with inconvenient family obligations.
From this perspective, it is likely that dilemmas arise when a person has to reconcile the self with personally held values.
Instead, see this as an issue of their hurt self being unable to reconcile with itself and taking it out on you, trying to shed their emotional immaturity and leave you feeling bad.
It's a moment of self-questioning, of wondering whether the system itself, with its fictions and with the realities that they reconcile, has self-contradicting limits.
The challenge before us is to reconcile competing self-interests and combine them into enlightened mutual interest.
Rather, it is the responsibility of the individual to reconcile her self-image with her choice of mass-market soap.
And a question arose: How could a man whose success had been based on such self-effacing relief work reconcile humility with celebrity?
Mr. Sadr's challenge now is to reshape a powerful street movement into a political one, and to reconcile its self-image as the permanent face of opposition even as its ministers and deputies fill the government.
Morgan and Zhenya may cast the occasional suspicious glance at some of Emma's male contemporaries, but the real culprit (Boswell doesn't keep this a secret for long) is their next-door neighbor, Roy, a divorced policeman in his 30's, doomed to try to reconcile his self-image as a righteous authority figure with the knowledge that he is also an at-large statutory rapist.
