From Oprah Winfrey's alleged rejection at an upscale boutique to Lululemon's open shaming of its customers, women find that when they speak out about being treated badly by retailers, they open themselves up to criticism: they don't look the right way, they're oversensitive, or they're not the right demographic.
"Keeping an open, shame-free space for talks, no matter the topic, can increase the chance that a child will share with a trusted adult if something troubling is going on in their world".
As a way of announcing the truth-telling theme of his new crime novel, George P. Pelecanos opens SHAME THE DEVIL (Little, Brown, $24.95) with a stylishly choreographed but extremely raw scene of urban violence -- a 1995 robbery in a Washington pizza parlor that leaves five people dead, including one of the gunmen and a little boy who just happened to get in the way.
It's all completely out in the open — no shame, no hiding, no beating around the bush.
Kim Lee didn't obey the cultural command and blew open a shame-filled secret — widespread domestic violence.
What you need is transparency, space for open and shame-free discussion and policies that allow trusted adults to be present in numbers with the children.
As they say in Indonesia, "The Suhartos have everything, except a sense of shame". Open markets ultimately need an open political system, and the emerging middle classes in Asia know it and are pressing for it as a result of this crisis.
Steve McQueen's Shame opened the subject to new depths.
Bringing substance use disorder out into the open destroyed the shame and stigma so often associated with the illness.
In practice, this means having a vote to force Democratic opponents to come out in the open to be shamed.
Shame, opening in limited release Friday (12.2.11), is a story of addiction and a man battling his own compulsions.
