It's nice some time when you get a bit of loving from people, and I think that's the only thing that's missing with Alastair at the minute".
Freud had learned much about what he called "the necessary conditions of loving" from novelists and poets, before embarking on the process of putting a little Wissenschaft – orderly knowledge or "science" garnered in the laboratory of his consulting room – into the field of human love.
Nonetheless, the robust concern view as it stands does not seem properly able to account for the intuitive "depth" of love and so does not seem properly to distinguish loving from liking.
It is more common to distinguish loving from liking via the intuition that the "depth" of love is to be explained in terms of a notion of identification: to love someone is somehow to identify yourself with him, whereas no such notion of identification is involved in liking.
But so far it's the swimmers who are receiving a little extra loving from the masses.
From the hundreds of sagas uncovered in researching my relationship books, I am constantly reminded of the eggshell-thin line that separates loving from loathing.
