We are taught to believe that it's unfeminine or slutty – or even hurtful to men – for women to either delineate what they want or say the simple no.
Impervious to the facts, we dwell insistently on the one aspect that is conceivably hurtful for men: the convention of naming suspects, which sometimes means that those who are accused but do not go on to face charges are left with a permanent stigma.
But how to say this in words that would not be hurtful to the man's pride?
"These allegations are totally ludicrous and very hurtful to a young man who is grieving the loss of the woman he loved," he said.
He did not falter or complain; instead he went looking for Khan and he found him, his head banging up time and again against the younger man's hurtful fists.
"These allegations are totally ludicrous, extremely convenient for South Africa and very hurtful to a young man who is grieving the loss of the woman he loved, his chosen life partner.
Over the next decades, the friendship is tested by excessive candor, manipulative men, and hurtful revelations.
Tracy Rector, Longhouse Media executive director, said the use of their photo in such a "hateful and demeaning way was deeply hurtful to these young men and their families, and to the Native community as a whole.
It's this sort of hurtful slander that can cause a man – a nice man, like Chad Kroeger – to crack.
How dare they be against him, say such unjust and hurtful things about the great man who had vowed to destroy us, the evil Soviet Union, and consign us to the ash heap of history!
