One day, someone sent an e-mail message: "Hey, I think you might be our neighbor!" Vance did not smile at the monitor or feel an agreeable "small-world glow".
She felt an agreeable sense of accomplishment at having mastered the snowfall, a feeling close to happiness.
The research provides some evidence that agreeable people feel a sense of obligation when they're forgiven, a kind of moral contract: You forgave me, so I'll reciprocate by treating you well.
Across four different studies, the researchers found that more agreeable people feel a strong need to respond in kind when they are forgiven, which means not repeating the behavior that bothered or upset their partner -- such as smoking, flirting, neglecting chores, or overspending.
So unless an interaction feels "special and unique" -- aka you're into the date -- don't feel pressured to act extra agreeable.
Be focused more on being agreeable and making people feel comfortable than in proving that you're right and that the other person's opinions are worthless.
One would not feel like attacking such a "competent and agreeable novel", Orwell writes, "if Mr Priestley had not been so extravagantly praised.
Affability is a commercial virtue, but it is also the affect of people who feel themselves to be living in a fundamentally agreeable society.
That's why when we approach discussions from a place of service, we stand a better and more powerful chance of creating an environment where everyone may feel more candid and amenable to create an agreeable outcome.
Acceptance is when both parties feel that the terms of the offer are agreeable and they say "yes".
Set against that, and a six-month campaign that Healey has described as one of the "least agreeable" experiences of his life, does it feel strange to see Benn transformed from a leftist menace into a national treasure?
