The 28-year-old American, who lives in south London, has spent the past five years trying, and failing, to get breast reduction surgery on the NHS because the breasts are "out of line with my agender identity".
Lola prefers the term agender – neither male nor female – and adopted the name Lola at the age of 16 because of Mana, a Japanese musician and fashion designer who pioneered a style called 'elegant gothic Lolita'.
Dove has been outspoken about her rejection of traditional gender norms and identifies as an "agender" model.
At a workshop called "Binary Defiance," at the True Colors Conference, the facilitator wrote specialized gender labels on the blackboard so fast that I practically sprained my wrist writing them down: "non-binary, gender queer, bigender, trigender, agender, intergender, pangender, neutrois, 3rd gender, androgyne, two-spirit, self-coined, genderfluid".
("Trans" with an asterisk means someone who identifies with any of a welter of finely honed descriptions — genderfluid, genderqueer, two-spirit, agender, third-gender, etc. "Queer" with an asterisk indicates someone who isn't straight but may not be exactly gay, either).
In high school, Kate identified as "agender" and used the singular pronoun "they"; she now sees her gender as an "amorphous blob".
Cam, 20, from Ireland has experienced as many as 10 different genders, including male, female, bigender and agender.
There are lots of subsections – you might be agender, gender fluid, bi-gender, a demi-girl or a demi-boy.
In this respect, the book is extremely in tune with online feminism, which can be acutely, even painfully, attentive to the needs of those who are "agender, asexual, queer, intersex, gender fluid etc", while simultaneously giving not the tiniest of tiny shits about women over, say, the age of 50.
Examples include gender fluid (in between the gender binary; the person's gender changes and can also fluctuate over time), genderqueer (anything between or outside of the gender binary – a catch-all term), gender-neutral (feeling neither male nor female, in between the gender binary), or agender (feeling completely outside of non-binary and binary gender, identifying as having no gender at all).
